How Dating Sites Have Changed The Game And How You Can Use It To Your Advantage

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The dating game these days is NOTHING like it once was. When we were using AIM messenger to write messages to our middle school crushes we never realized that we were at the beginning of a brand new dating world.

Dating sites have given dating a full 180 creating an online space to meet people you may have never bumped into.

Dating sites have opened up a whole new world and an opportunity for women to do something that was a little harder to do before, not take dating so seriously.

When the world is at our fingertips (literally, as we find people online using our fingers to navigate our keyboards) we have a new found control over how we want to date.

There is no one way to date anymore. There is no meet someone out, go on a date, hope for the best or wait for the next person to come along.

Dating sites have changed the dating game and given us endless (or at least it sure feels like it) chances to meet someone perfectly suited for us but it has also given us something else. A certain kind of freedom that comes with knowing that if this date just doesn’t feel right, there is so much more opportunity at our fingertips (again, literally) that we don’t have to stress about it. We don’t have to worry if the right one will come along because the right one forever or just for right now is so much more easily accessible. We don’t have to worry about settling because there is no excuse for it anymore, not when you could in theory message someone on the other side of the world and see if you are a good match for each other.

Not having to stress about our dating lives leads to something even greater, the opportunity to have fun. The opportunity to go on dates because why not? The opportunity to meet new people just for the sake of meeting new people. The opportunity to have an experience that you might not have if you hadn’t gone out with ‘him’. Now that, is so damn cool.

So, how do we use this new technology to our advantage?

Simply put-don’t take it too seriously and have fun. Let me expand:

Don’t Take It So Seriously

Just be there to have a good time. Be young and free and date or do whatever it is that you want at the moment because you can. Enjoy the freedom and relish all the really, really, really, fun times.

Have fun

This one is pretty simple. Just have fun. Be down for spontaneous activities and learning about a new person. Learn from the experience, gain something from it, and let yourself fall more in love with yourself through having fun with someone else. Be the fun, easy going gal that you know you can be and be prepared to look back in a few years and say damn, those were the good ole days.

I can’t imagine what great grandmothers and grandfathers really think about the dating world today. They probably can’t even wrap their minds around the idea of it-the same way we won’t understand how our great grandchildren are dating at our age.

The game has changed and if you are interested in bringing the new technology into your dating world, than you are already one step closer to owning the new game and having a damn good time doing it.

Let loose, have fun, and be a yes man for the incredible new experiences that online dating sites and apps have created for our generation of strong and independent women.

First Love: Fact or fiction?

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I remember it like it was yesterday. The first time we held hands, our first kiss, his gorgeous smile and the crazy sense of urgency to see each other the second we were apart. Life was good. It was simple. Our love was consuming. But he was my first love. So was it all real or is my memory of it all, giving it far greater credit than it deserves?

It comes to no surprise that romantic movies and novels have appealed to women all over the world for many years and perhaps more so in last decade, but why? What is it that makes us want Allie to leave her loving partner and go back to her first love Noah in the “notebook”, why do we all think about starting up dancing lessons the moment we finish watching “Dirty Dancing”, and why do we dream of rekindling romance with our first love in “the best of me”?

I think that one of those reasons is that the world has changed so significantly that relationships between people today, leaves a little something to be desired.

Life is just busy, often too busy; the thought of escaping and losing yourself in a romance movie is just what the doctor ordered.

Communication has somehow moved past writing love letters and poems; professing your love for someone means you are ‘putting it all on the line’ and so onto a text message with a heart eyed emoji it is. (In all fairness, a love poem straight off the bat would probably have me questioning a man’s sanity and have me running for the hills).

Ok, so maybe we can all agree that we doubt we will be forgetting our first love any time soon, but since it was our first love, was it actual love? Is it such a stretch to think that we might have found love so young and first time out of the gates running? As an adult, it’s easy to dismiss young love as just part of the process of growing up. By the time you’re an adult, you have more than likely experienced heart ache and can be pessimistic (others might say realistic), on what the chances are of two young teenagers staying together for the long haul.

So, is first love fact or fiction? I say fact. I can reflect back at to my experience, and even though I might be forgetting those inevitable arguments and devilish lows, the adrenaline rush of a first love clearly outweighed it all. Do you remember your first love?

Why You Should Always Be the First to Arrive on a First Date

 

First dates can be nerve wracking in general and I’ve always made a rule to arrive late to dates so i’m not sitting around awkwardly waiting for my date to turn up. However after watching this skit from VODville I may now have to rethink my rule so I can avoid this situation at all costs.

 

 

The First Date

13 Amazing Life Quotes From Author Cheryl Strayed

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Cheryl Strayed is an Author her most famous book being her memoir titled ‘Wild’ which was also made into a movie and the role of Cheryl was played by Reese Witherspoon. Cheryl also has some other amazing books that have some great life advice such as ‘Tiny Beautiful Things’ so it is no wonder that she has such an amazing way with words. Every book of hers is full of so much honest no bullshit life advice. Here are just some of the best quotes from Mrs Strayed.

13 of the BEST quotes from Cheryl Strayed

“What if I forgave myself? I thought. What if I forgave myself even though I’d done something I shouldn’t have? What if I was a liar and a cheat and there was no excuse for what I’d done other than because it was what I wanted and needed to do? What if I was sorry, but if I could go back in time I wouldn’t do anything differently than I had done? What if I’d actually wanted to fuck every one of those men? What if heroin taught me something? What if yes was the right answer instead of no? What if what made me do all those things everyone thought I shouldn’t have done was what also had got me here? What if I was never redeemed? What if I already was?”

“I knew that if I allowed fear to overtake me, my journey was doomed. Fear, to a great extent, is born of a story we tell ourselves, and so I chose to tell myself a different story from the one women are told. I decided I was safe. I was strong. I was brave. Nothing could vanquish me.”

“Don’t surrender all your joy for an idea you used to have about yourself that isn’t true anymore.”

“Nobody will protect you from your suffering. You can’t cry it away or eat it away or starve it away or walk it away or punch it away or even therapy it away. It’s just there, and you have to survive it. You have to endure it. You have to live through it and love it and move on and be better for it and run as far as you can in the direction of your best and happiest dreams across the bridge that was built by your own desire to heal.”

“It is not so incomprehensible as you pretend, sweet pea. Love is the feeling we have for those we care deeply about and hold in high regard. It can be light as the hug we give a friend or heavy as the sacrifices we make for our children. It can be romantic, platonic, familial, fleeting, everlasting, conditional, unconditional, imbued with sorrow, stoked by sex, sullied by abuse, amplified by kindness, twisted by betrayal, deepened by time, darkened by difficulty, leavened by generosity, nourished by humor and “loaded with promises and commitments” that we may or may not want or keep.
The best thing you can possibly do with your life is to tackle the motherfucking shit out of it.”

“You will learn a lot about yourself if you stretch in the direction of goodness, of bigness, of kindness, of forgiveness, of emotional bravery. Be a warrior for love.”

“You cannot convince people to love you. This is an absolute rule. No one will ever give you love because you want him or her to give it. Real love moves freely in both directions. Don’t waste your time on anything else.”

“Alone had always felt like an actual place to me, as if it weren’t a state of being, but rather a room where I could retreat to be who I really was.”

“Forgiveness doesn’t sit there like a pretty boy in a bar. Forgiveness is the old fat guy you have to haul up a hill.”

“You don’t have a right to the cards you believe you should have been dealt with. You have an obligation to play the hell out of the ones you’re holding and my dear one, you and I have been granted a mighty generous one.”

“We are all entitled to our opinions and religious beliefs, but we are not entitled to make shit up and then use the shit we made up to oppress other people.”

“Withholding distorts reality. It makes the people who do the withholding ugly and small-hearted. It makes the people from whom things are withheld crazy and desperate and incapable of knowing what they actually feel.
So release yourself from that. Don’t be strategic or coy. Strategic and coy are for jackasses. Be brave. Be authentic. Practice saying the word “love” to the people you love so when it matters the most to say it, you will.”

5 Ways To Keep Your Independence When You’re In A Relationship

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Yes, I used independence and relationship in the same context! I am not a fan of girls who get into relationships and slowly dissipate their independence, whether it be emotionally, financially, physically, or in other friendships and family relationships.

I think this is when we as women hit dangerous territory-when our happiness is so intertwined with somebody elses emotions and actions that we don’t know who we are anymore. When we shut the water off of our fountain of happiness and give the keys to another person is when things get real dicey.

Have you ever seen a couple absolutely infatuated with each other years and years into their relationship? Notice the woman. She’s happy, she’s confident in herself and her abilities, she’s a proud provider to her man, and she’s i-n-d-e-p-e-n-d-e-n-t. You can tell immediately that her man is her supporter and lover but not the only component there is to her. She’s her own woman with her own thoughts and opinions and her man is there to love her and be her companion.

We are all powerful beyond measure and a lot of that power comes from being our own individual self before we are somebody’s partner. People fall in love with us for who we are when we were independent souls and to keep that independence during the relationship will keep your partner infatuated with you for the long haul.

How do you make sure that you are keeping yourself an independent woman whose man only rises her up but isn’t the only source of her power, femininity, and independence?

  1. Make time to be alone

    Look, I’ve been there-the beginning stages of a relationship where all you want is to live and breathe that person all day and night long. You’re absolutely infatuated and it’s damn near impossible to part even if you have been together for 48 hours straight but it is just so important that you do. Carving out time to be alone keeps you…you. It keeps you balanced and healthy-you have to remain your first priority so that your relationship can be strong and incredible. I repeat-you have to be the source of your power, femininity, and independence and you have to be able to return to the space all by yourself and without your partner for the best life results.

  2. Keep your friendships strong

    I’ve also been there. Suddenly you have a lot less time for you friends and if you don’t prioritize them it is so easy for them to slip away and become distant. Do not let this happen. You NEED girl time and you don’t want to come running back to your friends 6 months later when you’re finally ready to see them again. Stay close to your friends and make girl time a priority. Your man will be doing the same with his boys and it will only elevate your relationship for you both to have strong friendships outside of your own.

  3. Be financially independent

    Don’t rely on him for anything. You are your own person and at the end of the day the pride and hard work it takes to be your own sole financial facilitator is worth a hundred times more than relying on somebody else for their money. It’ll keep your relationship balanced and not in his favor and will have you emotionally feeling powerful and capable.

  4. Stay focused on your dreams

    It breaks my heart when I see friends get into relationships and suddenly they’re throwing their dreams out the window because it doesn’t fit the mold of their relationship. In fifty years time you will regret this every day of your life. It won’t have been worth it! Keep your boyfriend close and your dreams closer. Don’t settle for anyone whose dreams don’t align with yours. This is a one shot life and at the end of the day you want to be able to say you did everything that you wanted with it.

  5. Be the creator of your own happiness

    This is where all of the above points come together. If you can’t be all by yourself and as happy as a clam then you are not in control of your happiness. If you’re putting all your eggs in one basket and only prioritizing one relationship in your life versus your friendships as well-you’re playing a risky game of allotting the big red button of your happiness to be in the control of one other human. If your finances are completely dependent on somebody else than you are at their beck and whim and so is your happiness. And, last but not least-if you are letting your dreams slide to the back burner for a temporary feeling of lust you are putting the fate of your life in somebody’s hands who more than likely is going to make sure their dreams come true at the end of the day. Make sure your happiness is the number one priority in your entire life because that’s where beautiful and unfathomable relationships are born.

The best part of keeping your independence when you are in a relationship is how much more magical that relationship ends up being. Your man will be even more infatuated with you and will be proud to call you his woman.

You know what else? You will be more infatuated with yourself and be proud to be who you are. You’ll be happy, genuine, a good friend, a power woman, and most of all an emotionally healthy and supportive partner for your man.

Do it for your man and do it for you. Stay courageous, silly, lovable, career driven, and most importantly-stay you.

10 of the Best Romance Audiobooks

In this day and age who has time to read books anymore! It’s all about audio books now, you can listen to them on your commute to and from work, when you’re working out, when you’re driving in the car or just chilling at the beach. Plus what girl doesn’t love a good love story? So being able to get your daily dose of fantasy romance in an audio book is almost as good as the real thing. So here are 11 of our favourite romance audio book.

1. A Hundred Pieces of Me

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Reeling from her recent divorce, Gina Bellamy suddenly finds herself figuring out how to live on her own. Determined to make a fresh start—with her beloved rescue greyhound by her side—Gina knows drastic measures are in order.

First up: throwing away all her possessions except for the one hundred things that mean the most to her. But what items are worth saving? Letters from the only man she’s ever loved? A keepsake of the father she never knew? Or a blue glass vase that perfectly captures the light?

As she lets go of the past, Gina begins to come to terms with what has happened in her life and discovers that seizing the day is sometimes the only thing to do. And when one decides to do just that…magic happens.

2. The Husband’s Secret

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Imagine your husband wrote you a letter, to be opened after his death. Imagine, too, that the letter contains his deepest, darkest secret—something with the potential to destroy not only the life you have built together, but the lives of others as well. And then imagine that you stumble across that letter while your husband is still very much alive…

Cecilia Fitzpatrick has achieved it all—she’s an incredibly successful businesswoman, a pillar of her small community, a devoted wife and mother. Her life is as orderly and spotless as her home. But that letter is about to change everything—and not just for her. There are other women who barely know Cecilia—or each other—but they, too, are about to feel the earth-shattering repercussions of her husband’s secret.

3. A Glimpse of the Dream

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Teagan Harper is barely ten years old when she finds herself orphaned and sent away to live at Raven’s Peak, a Gothic estate on the seaside cliffs of Maine. Soon, though, her heartache and loneliness are tempered by a blossoming friendship with the only other child living at Raven’s Peak: Kane Doyle, only two years older than Teagan and abandoned by his mother. Over the years, the pair grows inseparable. First they’re pranksters and confidants, but eventually their feelings change, and best friends turn into soul mates. On the cusp of Teagan’s departure for a university in Boston, they share a glimpse into their happily-ever-after and make promises of forever.

But Teagan and Kane’s engagement and dreams of the future are shattered when Teagan returns home to find Kane gone from Raven’s Peak—and living with someone new. Devastated and heartbroken, Teagan cuts ties with her beloved adoptive home and tries to move on with her life. But years later, when the shocking truth behind Kane’s betrayal comes to light, Teagan must decide whether to embrace her new life and let go of her past once and for all, or fight for her dream life with the only man she’s ever wanted.

4. The Choice

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Travis Parker has everything a man could want: a good job, loyal friends, even a waterfront home in small-town North Carolina. In full pursuit of the good life – boating, swimming , and regular barbecues with his good-natured buddies — he holds the vague conviction that a serious relationship with a woman would only cramp his style. That is, until Gabby Holland moves in next door. Spanning the eventful years of young love, marriage and family, THE CHOICE ultimately confronts us with the most heartwrenching question of all: how far would you go to keep the hope of love alive?

5. The Rose Girls

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Thirty-year-old Celeste Hamilton’s life is at a crossroads: she has just left a disastrous marriage, and her estranged mother has recently died, leaving the family’s rose business in jeopardy. Reluctantly, Celeste returns to the family home, a moated manor house in Suffolk, to help her two younger sisters sort out the estate and revive the business.

Having endured the fallout from her mother’s Narcissistic Personality Disorder when she was younger, Celeste is filled with self-doubt and crippling insecurities. But she must find the strength and courage to take charge and make some tough decisions to keep the old house from falling down around them.

The Rose Girls is an uplifting, tender and romantic story of courage, perseverance and the healing power of family.

6. Summer’s Child

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Early on the morning of her eleventh birthday, on the beach beside her North Carolina home, Daria Cato receives an unbelievable gift from the sea—an abandoned newborn baby. When the infant’s identity cannot be uncovered, she is adopted by Daria’s loving family. But her silent secrets continue to haunt Daria.

Now, twenty years later, Shelly has grown into an unusual, ethereal young woman whom Daria continues to protect. But when Rory Taylor, a friend from Daria’s childhood and now a television producer, returns at Shelly’s request to do a story about the circumstances surrounding her birth, something precarious shifts in the small town of Kill Devil Hills.

The more questions Rory asks, the more unsettled the tiny community becomes, as closely guarded secrets and the sins of that long-ago summer begin to surface. Piece by piece, the mystery of summer’s child is being exposed, a mystery that no one involved—not Shelly, Daria, not even Rory—is prepared to face.

7. Miranda’s Big Mistake

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Her most recent catastrophe is Greg. He seems perfect—gorgeous, witty, exciting. And he and Miranda are in love… until Miranda discovers he left his wife when he found out she was pregnant.

With the help of her friends, Miranda plans the sweetest and most public revenge a heartbroken girl can get. But will Miranda learn from her mistake, or move on to the next “perfect” man and ignore the love of her life waiting in the wings…

Even the worst mistake of your life can lead to true love in the end…

8. Boundary Lines: A Selection from Hearts Untamed

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In #1 New York Times bestselling author Nora Roberts’s heartwarming tale, love doesn’t come easy in Big Sky country.

When Jillian Baron inherits her grandfather’s Montana ranch, she inherits a long-standing family feud as well. Living side by side with the Murdocks had bred contempt over the years. But now a common enemy has Jillian and Aaron Murdock contemplating a truce―and trying to tamp down a persistent spark that has sprung up between them. Forbidden territory has never looked so inviting, nor has putting the past behind them once and for all.…

9. One Small Act of Kindness

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What can you do to make the world a better place? Libby helps a stranger and transforms her life in the process.

Libby and her husband, Jason, have moved back to his hometown to turn the family B&B into a boutique hotel. They have left London behind and all the memories – good and bad – that went with it. The injured woman Libby finds lying in the remote country road has lost her memory. She doesn’t know why she came to be there, and no one seems to be looking for her.

When Libby offers to take her in, this one small act of kindness sets in motion a chain of events that will change many people’s lives….

10. Heaven and Hell

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After making a bad decision when she was very young, Kia Clementine finds herself in hell. Then, suddenly, within the time it takes for a shotgun to blast, her hell changes. Completely. Then out-of-the-blue she sees Sampson Cooper, her celebrity crush. A man the whole world knows is decent. A man the world knows is loyal. A man the world knows is good. All of these very unlike her now dead husband. He’s sitting at a table right next to hers. And she catches his eye. Terrified of the interest Sam shows in her, Kia finds the courage to go out with him. Not long after, she shares her dark secrets and Sam shares that he’ll stop at nothing to gain her trust. As Sam leads Kia to heaven, Kia realizes that Sam is living his own hell. But although he gives her beauty and she gives him everything, he withholds his trust. Even with all the beauty Sam shows her, Kia wants it all. But Sam forces Kia to make a heartbreaking decision and only she can decide. It’s all or nothing.

3 of the Best Podcasts on Sex, Dating & Relationships

 

 

I am a bit of a podcast junkie, (you can read about some of my other favourite podcasts here and here) I love that you can listen to a podcasts on any topic, at any time, anywhere and the people around you have no idea what you’re listening to (as long as you have your headphones in!) Three particular topics I love learning more about is sex, dating and relationships, in fact these are three things that effect pretty much everyone’s lives, so who wouldn’t want to learn more about them right?
There are a whole range of podcasts out there that cover these topics, however none of them are quite as entertaining or as insightful as these three podcasts.

 

1. LOVE SEX DESIRE Podcast – Susana Frioni 

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Susana Frioni is an amazing and a self proclaimed  speaker, writer, teacher, dance catalyst and personal coach who is obsessed with all things LOVE SEX DESIRE. So it’s only fitting that she started a podcast where she talks about all things to do with, yep you guessed it… love, sex and desire. She also interviews some great guests where they chat about things like how to get your libido back, food & sex cravings, open relationships and the mysteries of the female body just to name a few.


2. The Hook Up With Hannah Reilly

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This show describes itself as ‘like sex-ed but good’ and ‘The Hook Up is all about love… and f*cking!’ The great thing about this show is that you can write into Hannah with any questions you may have about sex and hooking up that you’re not brave enough to ask your friends of family. Hannah is usually joined by a guest each week where they both share stories of their sex and dating life and then answer your questions and offer up some advice. This Podcast can be listened to on triple J live at 9pm on Sundays or you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes and listen to the episodes any time.


3. The Prude & The Porn Star 

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This Podcast is hosted by two women who couldn’t be more different but somehow seem to work so perfectly together. The first co-host is Madison Missina who is a sex-worker and award-winning porn star the second is Carla GS a Christian mum from the suburbs. These two women chat about their own sex lives and relationships as well answering questions from listeners on anything to do with sex and relationships. It’s hilariously entertaining and incredibly insightful!

4 Ways To Slay Online Dating

 

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It’s a harsh world and we’re dating in it. Online dating has gone from being taboo to becoming one of the most popular ways to meet like-minded singles, and it’s really cool.

Considering that almost everyone is doing it now a days, how do you make yourself stand out? All users have the same potential to have a great profile, successful conversations, and hopefully a healthy and long term relationship but how do we get from point A to point B?

It all starts with your profile. I learned a valuable lesson one day while watching a man scroll through his online dating page. Here’s what I found-men are simple. The online dating man scrolls through about two pictures (no matter how many more there are) and does not read your bio. Chances are he’s going to try and contact you unless there’s really something there that isn’t his forte (which is RARE).

Advice point number one?

Keep it short and sweet. Put the pictures that you like best first and keep your bio short. Chances are if its long and lengthy nobody else has read it but you.

 

Now that you’re well on your way to be hounded down via internet by attractive, fun singles around you the next step is to have good conversation.

 

Let’s start with a disclosure. Not everyone is meant for everyone. Some people just click and others could not be farther from being anything romantic…ever. So that being said, the best way to start a conversation is to be flirty, light hearted, and fun. I’ve noticed a successful go to start off is “Hey :)”. Yes. Something that simple will get you places. Try it out and let us know if you receive the same feedback.

 

Now that the conversation is rolling it’s important to remember that this is a two way street.

Here’s advice point number two:

If they asks a question, don’t simply reply and leave them with nothing to work off of for more conversing. Be observant and always send the ball back into his court whether you ask him the same question or you form your answer so that there’s conversation to be had off of it.

This can lead us to one of two roads. Conversation can fizzle out and you can consider this one was not meant to be. Let me reiterate not everyone is meant for everyone. Be patient. You don’t want to settle so don’t take it badly if things don’t ever shape into something. The latter road involves a good conversation that leads to a meet up.

 

Advice point number three?

Meet for coffee or for drinks. These are safe ways to be able to leave if things just aren’t going right and they always involve crowds. Coffee keeps things very casual and is perfect for testing the waters. Getting drinks has potential for more outcomes, but if you play your cards right you can have the night lead any which way you want.

The best part of online dating is that you are in charge. You choose if you want to keep talking, you choose if you want to meet up, you choose if you want more. It has given us women a complete handle on dating and has shifted the power to us. Throw on your Beyonce playlist before walking out the door so that you can be as poised and confident as Queen Bey.

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So here’s advice point number four-Be you.

Yes, follow the guidelines to not waste your time or theirs, but when it comes down to it just be you. Let them know what you are all about. When looking for a partner people love genuine girls who are confident in themselves while still being able to laugh at themselves. Tell your jokes, say what you want to say, and don’t hold yourself back…your perfect partner is on their way.

How To Bring Back That magic Spark In Your Relationship

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If you’re in a long-term relationship and have been for many years, you may have noticed your partner doesn’t pay enough attention to you or is not as romantic or spontaneous as before. So what are you supposed to do after a long work week, chasing the kids and all the hectic daily life moments you have? You’re exhausted and the last thing on either of your minds is getting your ‘sexy on’.

Looking for little moments to show your partner how much you love and appreciate them doesn’t have to take a lot of money or time.

  • Everyone buys gas for their vehicles at least once a week, so when paying slip in one of those prepackaged single red roses near the check-out register. For as little as an extra dollar or two, you can give this to your partner ‘just because’. After all, do we really need a holiday or birthday as an excuse to buy a rose?
  • Date night doesn’t have to be a dinner out. Bring home the meal or take-out, set the table with candles and lower the lights; after the kids have gone to bed, of course. And to make the night complete, offer to help with the clean up, or give your partner the night off and you do it.
  • Give your partner an unexpected back massage. But don’t stop there, rub his or her feet, legs- make it an all over body massage. Nothing helps wash away the day or week’s stress like a relaxing massage. And you never know, it may lead to more.
  • Bring the kitchen into the mix. Have a blindfolded taste testing. Use fruit, whipped toppings (plain and flavored), chocolate covered pretzels, or whatever your partner’s desire (favorite foods) are. Whisper ‘sweet nothings’ as you feed each other.
  • Share a bath or showering together can be fun and really adds a sensuality to any relationship. But inside of just a joined bubble bath or washing each other’s backs- have some fun with it. Buy children’s ‘painting soaps’ and draw on it other. Maybe draw circles on your own body were your partner should be paying more attention to. Not only is this fun, but it helps each of you to know what turns the other person on.
  • Do your own ‘where we first met scavenger hunt’. Over the years you have shared some great memories and this may take a lot of planning, help and preparation but in the end it will all be worth it. Have four or five little ‘stops’ and clues with the final location being where you first met. At that location have a picnic prepared, a special meal or whatever the location calls for.
  • Buy a variety of specialty cheeses, deli meats, crackers and maybe two different wines. Set up a cheese and wine table and share the stress of the day; sometimes just talking to reconnect will open up the flood gates to more intimacy.
  • Put together a lunch (all your partners favorite foods) and/or a work survival box and deliver it to his or her office. Make sure all the items are appropriate. Having a delivery at work, being the envy of others in the office, will definitely make your partner feel appreciated and more than likely they will reciprocate at home.

All these are simple ways that anyone can add some variety to their normally hectic days. It reminds you why you fell in love with your partner and should lend a helping hand with spicing up the romance and bedroom.

More Reasons Why Online Dating Is Pretty Awesome

Love-is-the-answer-but-while-youre-waiting-for-the-answer-sex-raises-some-pretty-good-questions.-—-Woody-Allen

At some point in their life most people will seek a relationship from an online dating site. The level of the relationship is entirely up to the individuals. So, what is online dating? Hooking up? Meeting a new friend? The easiest definition is the practice of searching for a romantic or sexual partner on the internet.

If you haven’t tried online dating, and are in the position in your life where this could be a possibility, then you need to know the ten reasons to love online dating. Whether you’re in the market for a long-lasting commitment or just someone to have casual sexual encounters, keep reading.

The pool is bigger

Meaning you have more potential dates available for the picking. You’re not limited to who is at the bar stool next to you. You can be a little more fastidious about whom to talk to or possibly date.

Not obligated

You can talk to whomever you choose, without having to worry about being indebted to actually meet up or talk to the person. If someone is not to your liking, then move on. Blocking someone online has become the norm and easy to do.

Being yourself comes easier

When starting a new relationship and meeting people, this opens up your world to a chance to be yourself (being a little more daring or risque) because this person doesn’t know you, or your past.

Matching up and common interests

Most online dating websites like Adult Match Maker give you the option to search for matches through mutual interests. So, do opposites attract? Or should you date someone most like you and your personality.

Exclusive candidates

For the protection of its clients, most online dating sites monitor account so they can get rid of any accounts that do not seem real or who have a history of not being so nice to other members of the dating site.

No scheduling conflicts

People are busy so by using an online dating website, you can make your own schedule of when to be available online or to meet up. Don’t feel pressured by the other party. Make your own decision.

Ease of getting acquainted

Being a client of an online dating website offers the ease of getting to really know the person ahead of time. Generally people have intuition about others he or she meets. Use your time wisely and flirt, but also maintain an adult perspective and ‘weed’ through the bad seeds.

Become more social

Using an online dating website is a perfect time to let the ‘real you’ out. Don’t shy away from being who you are. Let the other person(s) know you and all your quirks and idiosyncrasies. Best they know who you are now versus months down the line. Online dating websites offer each client the opportunity to be more of who he or she wants to be. Being more social and meeting new people can be exciting.